Importance of maid in a Woman’s Life
Hubby speaks
Listening to my wife on our way to office, “You have no idea how much she understands me!! She takes care of everything even without me asking her to. I can’t afford to lose her.” Any guesses, what these words refer to. Well, she was talking about our house help. Now I know why they say that the maid is even more important than the husband.
Wifey speaks
My husband thinks it is a ‘Much Ado for Nothing’ but I know a lot of you can understand the importance of a good and understanding maid in a woman’s life. Nothing sounds sweeter to a woman’s ears than the doorbell ring in the morning and knowing that your maid is here.
In childhood, I used to find it rather odd when my mother used to listen patiently to our maid’s family problems, give away dresses to her and not let go a single opportunity of helping her or her family. And the most irritating of all, she would never scold her when she was being lazy. In fact I used to get angry on the maid which thankfully she let go off as my childishness. My mother always managed the situation without raising her voice. Me as a teenager used to think my maid does less of her work and more of gossip.
Fast forward to the present where I am married and the boss of my own household, I understand my mother’s reasons better now. All you got to do is find yourself an honest maid. And the day you find her, you keep the precious one close to your heart. Especially in big cities and metros, where finding a good, reliable maid is a daunting task. You take care not to overwork her. Because you know that work done with 80% efficiency everyday is far better than her getting sick and going on indefinite leave.
Being good to your maid is vital for fuss free co-existence. For instance, my maid has 2 kids and I have to take it into account that she might need leaves at times of need.
Be cordial and respectful towards your maid. If taking her assistance for preparing the home for celebrations, try to make her a part of it or send sweets and gifts for her family. Always donate things which are in good condition. For example never share food which you yourself won’t eat. Old clothes and toys are fine but torn, stained or broken are a strict no-no.
If you want your maid to keep your house as clean as a family member would, your being considerate towards her is gonna be a motivating factor. But at the same time try to keep a distance at personal level. I am saying it from my personal experience that you don’t have to spend time gossiping or sharing her family problems. Boundaries like any other relationship is important here.
I have had people tell me how they could not retain maids. If you are one of them you need to look into a few things first. Do you cut her salary if she takes leaves for genuine reasons? She cannot work in sickness and health alike. Are you always pointing her how she may have missed a corner here and a corner there? While it is fine to point her if any work is left undone occasionally but always breathing over her back is gonna make her flee your house sooner than later. Do you burden her with unrealistic work expectations? Treat her as an employee and not somebody you own.
I have been told that I am too lenient towards my maid. But then as they say, any relationship requires efforts from both the parties and such is the relation between a lady and her maid. It is not only the money which makes a person gives 100% in his job. And as I said. if you are lucky enough to find that one person who takes care of everything just like a family member would, you ignore the few shortcomings, get down on your knees and tell her “Be My Maid.”
For my experience with chatGPT on the very same topic read here. And don’t forget to comment what you felt comparing the two.
